You are the creator of your own version of reality. Decades of psychological research prove beyond doubt that how you think controls how you behave and how you behave creates your life. Your mood dictates how you feel about every situation and every person that you encounter in your life. Your mood dictates how you react to every perceived opportunity, threat, compliment or insult. And, unfortunately, at this moment in time, you are incapable of controlling your own mood because it is automatically dictated by your subconscious mind. And the bad news is that, left to its own devices, your subconscious mind will always focus on what a psychologist would call your “stored knowledge” – everything that you learned about how the world works and, most importantly, everything that you learned about yourself – way back during your formative years. In other words, your life today is entirely dictated by things that happened to you or for you years or decades ago.
Since the early decades of the last century, research has, time and again, concluded that so-called normal people are simply not capable of paying any attention to what is actually happening before their very eyes. Sure, normal people really think that they know what’s going on, but they see everything through a fog of formative years programming. Believe it or not, normal people actually think they’re taking real action when, in reality, they are simply automatically reacting to their subconscious mind’s version of current events. And that interpretation is based on preconceived notions that are way past their sell-by date. Consider this for just a moment. If you actually acted, instead of reacted, would you be phased by some passing trivia that will be forgotten tomorrow? Would you lose your temper with your kids and make matters worse? Would you annoy your boss who holds your career in the palm of his or her hand? And would you even bother to waste your energy on allowing someone who cuts in on you in rush hour traffic to annoy you?
More to the point, would you consciously self-sabotage with useless, crazy, unfounded thoughts that you are inadequate? Would you deliberately let an opportunity slip because you think that you’re shy? Would you become a perspiring, crumpled, nervous wreck every time that you’ve got to speak in public? Would you be lazy? Would you be stressed out? Would you succumb to what is, after all, nothing other than perceived pressure? Not one of these things make any sense – and yet that is where most of us find ourselves most of the time – no wonder the World Health Organization believes that stress will be the biggest killer of the 21st century.
Normal people – and that’s all of us to a greater or lesser extent – are completely out of control. If you’re not happy with yourself or your life, if there’s something that you would like to change, if you’d like to achieve more or be more relaxed, it has nothing to do with what is actually happening to you or for you – it is all down to a normal, crazy, out of control subconscious mind. You might wish for or want for better times, greater things to happen, to be calmer, more assertive, more attractive or even have more money. However, the ups and downs of normal living have convinced you that life doesn’t work like that – you believe that you’re neither sufficiently brave nor courageous to take the leap. You’re wrong, you only think that life is what it is, that you’ve got to work hard to be a success, that certain things are beyond you. All these self-defeating useless thoughts are many miles removed from actual reality – they are a figment of a subconscious mind that’s lost in a past long gone.
You can’t control your life – nobody can. On the other hand, you can exert extra-ordinary influence on every aspect of your life by simply taking control of the one thing in life over which you can exert complete and absolute control – your own state of mind. You must drag (often you will have a fight on your hands!) that subconscious mind of yours away from its total obsession with a long-gone past. It is vital that you re-learn the innate skills that we all have to pay attention to what is actually happening in the present moment – something that was second nature to you when you were a child. You must take full control of your otherwise wayward mind – you must commit to re-training yourself to come to your senses. A small commitment – perhaps only a few minutes a day on your part – will change your life utterly. Those few minutes each day need to be spent in relearning how to pay attention to what your five senses are actually telling you – without your warped subconscious mind putting its own irrelevant spin on things.
If you make the effort – and only a little effort is required – to re-learn the art of being present – if you do actually bother to turn up to your own life – you will take control of your mind and create a reality based on who you really are, what you really feel, what you really want and what you can really achieve.
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